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4 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others. To look at the next person, and their success, or maybe their talents and skills, and feel a sense of inadequacy. Maybe we feel like we’re not as talented. Like we haven’t accomplished enough, or we’re not as beautiful or successful. Whatever the reason, I’m here to remind us both, that we don’t need to compare ourselves, our gifts, or our lives to anyone else.

Here’s why you should stop comparing yourself to others and what you should do instead.


1. You are uniquely you

You are the only you in the entire world. There is no one with your combination of personality, voice, experiences, beauty, quirks, gifts and talents. And there will also never be another you. That’s pretty amazing!  And all those things that make you uniquely you are what makes you special and beautiful.


So stop comparing, and do this instead:

Really get to know yourself and embrace who you are. Start taking notice of the things that you like about yourself, the things that bring you joy, and the things that you’re naturally good at. And take notice of the personality traits and special skills that people compliment you on. Take it all in, and make time to love on you and own your uniqueness. Because you are more than enough, just as you are.


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2. You have unique gifts

The bible speaks about our different gifts.

For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. Romans 12:4-6 

In the body, the eyes see, the ears hear, and the mouth speaks. They all have different functions, but they are all needed. They are all necessary to make the whole body function properly.

It’s the same thing with us. We don’t need to compare ourselves or our gifts or contributions to the world, because we all have unique things to give and bring to the table.

And it takes all of us.


So stop comparing, and do this instead:

Don’t worry about who’s doing what you’re doing, because they’re not doing it like you. With your energy, or your unique style. You bring a different perspective. You have a different voice. And yours is needed.

And don’t worry about other people’s gifts, skills, and talents. Instead, focus on the ones that you’ve been given because yours are just as valuable.

You weren’t meant to be like everyone else. Trying to be more like other people, is a disservice to yourself and to others. Because the world and the people around you, need YOU, and what only YOU have to give.



3. You are on your own journey

God has a unique plan for all of our lives. We all have our own path. Some of us might have similar destinations, but our paths to get there won’t be identical.

We grew up with different childhoods, we’ve had different experiences, and we’ve faced different challenges in our lives that have made us who we are today.

Our roads to success will vary. Success itself will look different from one person’s life to the next. Our challenges, timelines, obstacles, and highs and lows will all differ.

I won’t experience everything that you have experienced on your life journey, and not everything that is meant for you, is meant for me, and vice versa.

We won’t all get to where we’re going at the same time, but also, our destinations are not all the same.

So really, there is no way of equally comparing.


 So stop comparing, and do this instead:

Embrace where you are and give yourself time to get to where you’re going. Acknowledge your small wins and successes along the way and take notice of your growth, and how far you’ve come. Because there’s beauty in the journey.



4. You are on God’s timing

God is all about timing. He’ll open a door or bless us with something when He knows that it’s the right time for us to receive it. So even though we might be tempted to compare our success or blessings to the next person, we need to take into account God’s perfect timing for things.

Maybe someone got a job or promotion you’ve been wanting, or a friend just moved or bought a house or welcomed a new baby. Maybe someone has started a business, and you’ve been anxiously waiting for the day when you can start your own.

God knows what you need and when you need it, but He also makes preparations for our blessings. He knows when the job we wanted wasn’t going to be a good fit for us, or when we’re not yet ready to deal with all that comes with owning a home. He sees things we can’t see. So our prayers aren’t going unheard. God just loves us enough to make preparations to ensure that we receive the right blessing (which may not always be the one that we prayed for) at the right time.


So stop comparing, and do this instead:

Trust God and know that if there’s something that you need that you don’t have yet, it’s not yet time.



If you didn’t know before, I hope you know now that you are enough just as you are. You are truly one of a kind and you’re in your own lane. A lane that was created just for you. You don’t need to compare or to try to be like anyone else because you were made to be YOU. So OWN your uniqueness. EMBRACE where you are. And just be YOU. Nothing more, nothing less. Simply YOU.




  • Jennifer Dyson

    Thanks for this. It is a good reminder to stop comparing.

    • Jessica

      You’re welcome Jennifer!

  • Amy Suiter

    What a beautiful post! In perfect timing, have faith…love this!

  • Joy

    Well this is a great post and a great reminder to be who God made us to be! loved it!

    • Jessica

      Yes! That’s all we’ve ever had to be. Thank you Joy!

  • Tina


    • Jessica

      Thanks Tina. And you’re so right. Comparison definitely steals our joy!



    • Jessica

      You and me both! But at least we know now! And hopefully we can help others who feel the same way that we did.

  • ty

    Ithoroughly enjoyed reading this. I often tell myself and others to not compare themselves to others, and ultimately we are not for every body, but who god places in our paths. i loved reading of each and every breakdown you provided. it is indeed an encouraging reminder to stop comparing and be satisfied with who god created you to be.

    • Jessica

      I’m so glad you enjoyed reading it. Everything you said is so true. It’s so easy to compare, but you really do have to remind yourself that you’re not for everybody and God made you who you are for a reason. Thanks for commenting!

  • Melissa Marie Sovak

    This is a tough thing for many people! Thanks for the post! It hit Home and was exactly what i needed to hear!

    • Jessica

      I’m so glad it was what you needed to hear! Thanks for commenting Melissa!

  • Plackie

    Great post. This is something I am trying to work on. With social media it’s easy to see someone’s life and compare it to yours. But we are all on different journeys.

    • Jessica

      So true. I feel like social media is where I used to do most of my comparing. But we’re definitely all on our own journeys. We just have to remind ourselves of that, often! And we also have to remember that there’s so much more that we don’t see behind the scenes of social media. Who knows what people are dealing with and not showing, ya know.

  • Karri

    Such an important message! Thank you for posting this. It’s starting my day off on the right foot.

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